{"id":208,"date":"2022-03-24T12:57:45","date_gmt":"2022-03-24T12:57:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/edukace.cochem.cz\/?page_id=208"},"modified":"2022-09-05T11:25:54","modified_gmt":"2022-09-05T11:25:54","slug":"informovani-ditete-tipy-pro-rodice-jak-mluvit-s-detmi-o-rozvodu","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/edukace.cochem.cz\/?page_id=208","title":{"rendered":"Informov\u00e1n\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte \u2013 tipy pro rodi\u010de, jak mluvit s\u00a0d\u011btmi o\u00a0rozvodu"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Pro rodi\u010de b\u00fdv\u00e1 obvykle velmi t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 naplnit svou rodi\u010dovskou povinnost a informovat o rozvodu sv\u00e9 d\u011bti. \u010casto hledaj\u00ed informace, jak to ud\u011blat co nejl\u00e9pe. V r\u00e1mci edukace by m\u011bli na tyto sv\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky dostat odpov\u011bdi nebo doporu\u010den\u00ed. Tipy pro rodi\u010de do t\u00e9to metodiky poskytla psycholo\u017eka PhDr. Marie Bla\u017ekov\u00e1, kter\u00e1 se ve sv\u00e9 praxi v\u011bnuje poradenstv\u00ed v oblasti rodinn\u00fdch, partnersk\u00fdch a mezilidsk\u00fdch vztah\u016f a je sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed interdisciplin\u00e1rn\u00edho t\u00fdmu zam\u011b\u0159en\u00e9ho na \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed situac\u00ed spojen\u00fdch s rozpadem sou\u017eit\u00ed rodi\u010d\u016f s nezletil\u00fdmi d\u011btmi. Tipy vych\u00e1zej\u00ed z obecn\u011b platn\u00fdch doporu\u010den\u00ed a je samoz\u0159ejm\u00e9, \u017ee v r\u00e1mci sd\u011blov\u00e1n\u00ed skute\u010dnosti rozchodu \u010di rozvodu sv\u00fdm d\u011btem mus\u00ed rodi\u010de reflektovat individualitu svou i sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed s p\u0159ihl\u00e9dnut\u00edm ke specifik\u016fm sv\u00e9ho dosavadn\u00edho rodinn\u00e9ho syst\u00e9mu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Rodi\u010de by se m\u011bli spole\u010dn\u011b domluvit na \u010dase, m\u00edst\u011b, osob\u011b, form\u011b i obsahu sd\u011blen\u00ed.<\/strong> Tato spole\u010dn\u00e1 domluva by m\u011bla p\u0159edch\u00e1zet samotn\u00e9mu sd\u011blen\u00ed d\u011btem. K d\u011btem by ji\u017e rodi\u010de m\u011bli p\u0159istupovat alespo\u0148 se z\u00e1kladn\u00ed p\u0159edstavou o tom, kdo a co sd\u011bl\u00ed, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b tak\u00e9 domluveni na obsahu toho, co se d\u011btem sd\u011blovat nebude (nap\u0159. detaily p\u0159\u00ed\u010din rozchodu).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">\u010cas<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>P\u0159esto\u017ee vhodn\u00e9 na\u010dasov\u00e1n\u00ed sd\u011blen\u00ed je obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 specifikovat, d\u00edt\u011b by m\u011blo b\u00fdt informov\u00e1no minim\u00e1ln\u011b v dob\u011b, kdy jsou ji\u017e jeho rodi\u010de rozhodnuti, \u017ee k rozchodu dojde.<\/li><li>P\u0159edstava, \u017ee d\u011bti nevn\u00edmaj\u00ed napjatou atmosf\u00e9ru mezi rodi\u010di, je velmi myln\u00e1. D\u011bti c\u00edt\u00ed nejistotu a str\u00e1daj\u00ed o to v\u00edce, kdy\u017e nerozum\u00ed tomu, co se kolem nich d\u011bje. Mohl by u nich vzniknout pocit, \u017ee za vzniklou situaci nap\u011bt\u00ed a za probl\u00e9my mezi rodi\u010di mohou ony. Z t\u011bchto d\u016fvod\u016f je velmi d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 s nimi o rozvodu mluvit a se sd\u011blen\u00edmi p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 neot\u00e1let.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">M\u00edsto<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Vhodn\u00e9 m\u00edsto pro sd\u011blen\u00ed, \u017ee se rodi\u010de rozv\u00e1d\u00ed, je pot\u0159ebn\u00e9 volit s ohledem na d\u00edt\u011b. Vyb\u00edrat lze z p\u0159irozen\u00e9ho prost\u0159ed\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte, z m\u00edst, kde se d\u00edt\u011b c\u00edt\u00ed dob\u0159e a jist\u011b (nap\u0159. jeho pokoj nebo m\u00edstnost, kde rodina tr\u00e1v\u00ed spole\u010dn\u00fd \u010das apod.).<\/li><li>Pro sd\u011blen\u00ed t\u00e9to informace se nedoporu\u010duj\u00ed m\u00edsta dovolen\u00fdch, v\u00fdlet\u016f, zkr\u00e1tka ta, kter\u00e1 nevych\u00e1z\u00ed z p\u0159irozen\u00e9ho prost\u0159ed\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Osoba<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Optim\u00e1ln\u00ed variantou je spole\u010dn\u00e9 sd\u011blen\u00ed obou rodi\u010d\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed by m\u011bli m\u00edt na pam\u011bti, \u017ee cokoliv d\u00edt\u011bti sd\u011bluj\u00ed, \u010din\u00ed tak kv\u016fli n\u011bmu, ne kv\u016fli sob\u011b.<\/li><li>Je proto d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9, aby na situaci rozchodu panovala mezi rodi\u010di shoda a v duchu spole\u010dn\u00e9ho rozhodnut\u00ed tuto informaci sv\u00fdm d\u011btem p\u0159ed\u00e1vali. Rodi\u010de tak mohou p\u0159edej\u00edt situac\u00edm, kdy by d\u00edt\u011b mohlo d\u00e1vat vinu jen tomu, kdo ode\u0161el nebo naopak tomu, kv\u016fli kter\u00e9mu musel ten druh\u00fd odej\u00edt. V o\u010d\u00edch d\u00edt\u011bte tak z\u016fstanou na stejn\u00e9 \u00farovni.<\/li><li>Hovo\u0159it m\u016f\u017ee ten, kdo dok\u00e1\u017ee tuto skute\u010dnost d\u00edt\u011bti p\u0159edat vhodn\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem, nemus\u00ed se jednat o inici\u00e1tora rozvodu.<\/li><li>Je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 zd\u016fraznit, \u017ee t\u00edmto sd\u011blen\u00edm se rodi\u010de st\u00e1vaj\u00ed posly \u0161patn\u00fdch zpr\u00e1v, a\u0165 u\u017e zvol\u00ed jakoukoliv formu a mus\u00ed b\u00fdt p\u0159ipraveni citliv\u011b reflektovat reakce sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Forma a obsah<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Forma sd\u011blen\u00ed by m\u011bla b\u00fdt klidn\u00e1 s p\u0159im\u011b\u0159en\u00fdm emo\u010dn\u00edm doprovodem, podporuj\u00edc\u00ed, srozumiteln\u00e1, pravdiv\u00e1.<\/li><li>Je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 m\u00edt na pam\u011bti tak\u00e9 d\u016fle\u017eitost odpov\u00eddaj\u00edc\u00ed neverb\u00e1ln\u00ed komunikace. Mimoslovn\u00ed doprovod (mimika, gesta, slzy apod.) mnohdy vypov\u00ed v\u00edce ne\u017e slova.<\/li><li>D\u00edt\u011bti m\u016f\u017eeme nap\u0159\u00edklad sd\u011blit: \u201ep\u0159estali jsme si rozum\u011bt a rozhodli jsme se, \u017ee u\u017e spolu nechceme (nem\u016f\u017eeme, neum\u00edme) \u017e\u00edt a spole\u010dn\u011b jsme se domluvili na tom, \u017ee jeden z n\u00e1s bude bydlet na jin\u00e9m m\u00edst\u011b\u201c.<\/li><li>V\u00fdznamn\u00fdm sd\u011blen\u00edm, kter\u00e9 je pot\u0159eba b\u011bhem rozhovoru n\u011bkolikr\u00e1t zopakovat a v budoucnu znovu a znovu, je tato skute\u010dnost: \u201ejsme pro tebe st\u00e1le otcem a matkou a na na\u0161\u00ed l\u00e1sce k tob\u011b se nic nem\u011bn\u00ed\u201c.<\/li><li>D\u00edt\u011b nepot\u0159ebuje zn\u00e1t podrobn\u00e9 detaily, zdlouhav\u00e1 vysv\u011btlov\u00e1n\u00ed. Pot\u0159ebuje srozumiteln\u00e9, jasn\u00e9, konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed informace, podporu a porozum\u011bn\u00ed.<\/li><li>Pravdivou, by\u0165 nep\u0159\u00edjemnou informac\u00ed (p\u0159im\u011b\u0159enou ch\u00e1p\u00e1n\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte) p\u0159edch\u00e1z\u00edme situac\u00edm, kdy by se d\u00edt\u011b o d\u016fvodech rozchodu mohlo dozv\u011bd\u011bt od ciz\u00edch osob.<\/li><li>Na druhou stranu v\u0161ak nen\u00ed vhodn\u00e9 pod\u00e1vat rozvod jako pozitivn\u00ed ud\u00e1lost v \u017eivot\u011b d\u00edt\u011bte (\u201edoma bude v\u00edce m\u00edsta, bude\u0161 m\u00edt vlastn\u00ed pokoj\u201c apod.) nebo situaci zleh\u010dovat t\u00edm, \u017ee rozvody jsou dnes norm\u00e1ln\u00ed a rozv\u00e1d\u00ed se t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 ka\u017ed\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed.<\/li><li>D\u00edt\u011bti vysv\u011btl\u00edme, \u017ee je samoz\u0159ejm\u011b v\u017edy lep\u0161\u00ed, pokud \u017eije cel\u00e1 rodina pohromad\u011b, ale \u017ee pokud se rodi\u010de st\u00e1le h\u00e1daj\u00ed, je l\u00e9pe \u017e\u00edt odd\u011blen\u011b.<\/li><li>D\u016fle\u017eitou sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed obsahu sd\u011blen\u00ed je tak\u00e9 podat d\u00edt\u011bti informace o zp\u016fsobu, jak\u00fdm se bude s ob\u011bma rodi\u010di v\u00eddat, by\u0165 se jedn\u00e1 o p\u0159edb\u011b\u017enou domluvu, kter\u00e1 m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt v budoucnu upravena. Konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed informace d\u00edt\u011b l\u00e9pe p\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1 a l\u00e9pe se s nimi ztoto\u017e\u0148uje.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Specifika obsahu sd\u011blen\u00ed dle v\u011bku d\u00edt\u011bte<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Mal\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b ve v\u011bku do \u0161esti let<\/strong> se m\u016f\u017ee za neshody rodi\u010d\u016f vinit. Je pot\u0159ebn\u00e9 jej ujistit, \u017ee tomu tak nen\u00ed, \u017ee to nen\u00ed jeho vina. Probl\u00e9my p\u0159ed d\u00edt\u011btem nen\u00ed pot\u0159eba skr\u00fdvat, ale up\u0159\u00edmn\u00fdm sd\u011blen\u00edm doprov\u00e1zen\u00fdm adekv\u00e1tn\u00edm neverb\u00e1ln\u00edm projevem, kter\u00fd je mnohdy pro d\u00edt\u011b srozumiteln\u011bj\u0161\u00edm, mu vysv\u011btlit, jak se v\u011bci maj\u00ed. \u017de si rodi\u010de p\u0159estali rozum\u011bt, stejn\u011b jako ono si n\u011bkdy nerozum\u00ed se sv\u00fdm kamar\u00e1dem apod. Od sv\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f pot\u0159ebuje zejm\u00e9na uji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed, \u017ee situaci nezavinilo, \u017ee jej rodi\u010de maj\u00ed st\u00e1le r\u00e1di.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>U d\u00edt\u011bte od \u0161esti let v\u011bku<\/strong> m\u016f\u017eeme pou\u017e\u00edvat slovo rozchod \u010di rozvod. Vinu za rozchod rodi\u010d\u016f mohou d\u00e1vat jak sob\u011b, tak sv\u00fdm rodi\u010d\u016fm. Rodina a s t\u00edm spojen\u00e1 stabilita je pro d\u00edt\u011b tohoto v\u011bku velmi v\u00fdznamn\u00e1, proto m\u016f\u017ee za\u017e\u00edvat nespokojenost, zlost, reagovat zv\u00fd\u0161enou pla\u010dtivost\u00ed, negativismem apod. Jedin\u00fdm \u0159e\u0161en\u00edm je op\u011bt pravdiv\u00e9 sd\u011blen\u00ed podan\u00e9 srozumiteln\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tak\u00e9 d\u011bti <strong>ve v\u011bku dvan\u00e1ct let a v\u00fd\u0161e<\/strong> m\u016f\u017ee rozvod rodi\u010d\u016f siln\u011b zas\u00e1hnout, i kdy\u017e navenek sv\u00e9 pocity nemus\u00ed projevovat a mohou se tv\u00e1\u0159it, \u017ee je jim vznikl\u00e1 situace jedno. V tomto obdob\u00ed je vhodn\u00e9 nab\u00eddnout d\u011btem prostor pro diskusi, projevit z\u00e1jem o jejich n\u00e1zor, ujistit je o sv\u00e9 st\u00e1l\u00e9 l\u00e1sce k nim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Sd\u011blen\u00ed<\/strong> dosp\u011bl\u00fdch-rodi\u010d\u016f i odborn\u00fdch pracovn\u00edk\u016f, se kter\u00fdmi se d\u00edt\u011b v souvislosti s \u0159e\u0161en\u00edm situace spojen\u00e9 s rozpadem sou\u017eit\u00ed jeho rodi\u010d\u016f setk\u00e1 \u2013 soudc\u016f, psycholog\u016f, soci\u00e1ln\u00edch pracovn\u00edk\u016f, <strong>mus\u00ed b\u00fdt pro d\u00edt\u011b srozumiteln\u00e9, v\u011bcn\u00e9, p\u0159izp\u016fsoben\u00e9 jeho v\u011bku a ch\u00e1p\u00e1n\u00ed<\/strong>. M\u011blo by vych\u00e1zet z jeho zku\u0161enost\u00ed, co ji\u017e v\u00ed, co ji\u017e tu\u0161\u00ed z chov\u00e1n\u00ed rodi\u010d\u016f. Nevhodn\u00e9 je sni\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed v\u00fdznamnosti vznikl\u00e9 situace a chl\u00e1cholen\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte, \u017ee se nic z\u00e1va\u017en\u00e9ho ned\u011bje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Obecn\u00e9 tipy, jak pomoci d\u011btem, aby se vyrovnaly se sv\u00fdmi pocity<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>ti\u0161e a pozorn\u011b poslouchat<\/li><li>potvrdit pocity d\u00edt\u011bte slovem (\u201eOh \u2026, Hm \u2026, Ch\u00e1pu \u2026\u201c)<\/li><li>pocity d\u00edt\u011bte pojmenovat (nap\u0159.: \u201eTohle t\u011b ale muselo rozhodit!\u201c)<\/li><li>splnit p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte alespo\u0148 v p\u0159edstav\u00e1ch (\u201eK\u00e9\u017e bych ti te\u010f mohla\u2026\u201c)<\/li><li>hovo\u0159it o pocitech a pot\u0159eb\u00e1ch, kter\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b m\u00e1<\/li><li>hovo\u0159it o sv\u00fdch pocitech a pot\u0159eb\u00e1ch<\/li><li>spole\u010dn\u011b hledat \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed, kter\u00e9 by vyhovovalo v\u0161em<\/li><li>zapsat v\u0161echny n\u00e1pady, a\u0165 u\u017e jsou jak\u00e9koliv<\/li><li>z n\u00e1pad\u016f vybrat ty, kter\u00e9 mohou b\u00fdt \u00fa\u010dinn\u00e9, kter\u00e9 stoj\u00ed za \u00favahu a kter\u00e9 nikoliv<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:50px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-text-color has-css-opacity has-background alignwide is-style-wide\" style=\"background-color:#eac323;color:#eac323\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons alignwide is-content-justification-center is-layout-flex wp-container-core-buttons-is-layout-a89b3969 wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link\" href=\"https:\/\/edukace.cochem.cz\/?page_id=206\">&lt;&lt; <strong>Jak d\u00edt\u011b informovat o rozvodu \u010di rozchodu jeho rodi\u010d\u016f<\/strong><\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-button\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link\" href=\"https:\/\/edukace.cochem.cz\/?page_id=210\"><strong>Jak d\u011bti pro\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed situaci rozpadu vztahu jejich rodi\u010d\u016f<\/strong> &gt;&gt;<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pro rodi\u010de b\u00fdv\u00e1 obvykle velmi t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 naplnit svou rodi\u010dovskou povinnost a informovat o rozvodu sv\u00e9 d\u011bti. \u010casto hledaj\u00ed informace, jak to ud\u011blat co nejl\u00e9pe. V r\u00e1mci edukace by m\u011bli na tyto sv\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky dostat odpov\u011bdi nebo doporu\u010den\u00ed. 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